Just got your book in the mail!! Thx for sharing this excerpt--resonated with me as a recovering over-achiever pediatrician who had to triple feed her biggest kid and tries to remind every single triple feeding parent that it is ok to do it differently.
really appreciate you engaging here! If you have time to review the book wherever you bought it, would be so grateful for the support. and, thank you again for taking the time to read and to comment here. the doctor overachiever mindset is no joke and feeding decisions are just so hard!
Kudos to you for tackling things that have positive associations, but when their levels of importance are inflated, they can cause important things to get overlooked, and can even cause harm.
When my mom and grandmas were having babies, breastfeeding wasn't supported, and even thought of as dirty. Women were shamed for wanting to breastfeed and sometimes told their milk wasn't good enough for no reason.
During the 90s things shifted to "breast is best." There were studies taken out of context making it seem like breast milk was gonna get your kid into an elite college. And even a weird push for women who breastfed to act like ambassadors and help "spread the message." At least that's how it seemed to me then.
Things have settled down in recent years from my experience, but women who don't breastfeed, or stop breastfeeding, still feel needless guilt. And women who want to breastfeed, still don't get enough support, especially if they have fewer social and financial resources.
These are complex issues, but sometimes best explained with real stories of real people. That's where I find the most help. Thanks for sharing this. And LOVE your book!!
And love this quote from above: "you don't even need to do it perfectly--you just need to start "
thank you so much for taking the time to write this very very thoughtful comment. as a perinatal psychiatrist, I spend so much of my time helping women navigate the minefield that is feeding decisions -- and so I was hoping that that example would bring it to life, without alienating. it's nice to know it landed! (and, i've been on the personal side of this as well as I have a 9 month old!) if you have a second to review the book wherever you bought it, I would be hugely grateful! thank you again for engaging here and for your thoughtful comment.
You are so welcome! I just left an Apple Book Store review to encourage others to read your book. That's wonderful hearing about your little one. I always share that Jill Churchill quote with newer parents: "There's no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one." Find what works for you, and when life changes, find a new way that works and it's all good.
I know I'm saying this to an expert, but we're all human. And it's still a challenge even when well informed. And that's why we all need support: needing help is normal. I wish I knew that when I was a new mom, but it’s great to see movement in that direction. Your book helps move the needle! BEST to you!!
Listening to the audiobook at work and had to come research you! From a college student and full-time worker who is studying to be clinical therapist or school counselor, this introduction and book as a whole will change lives, and I hope to grow from it too. Thank you so much for being brave enough in this world to speak up and out!
Thank you so much for taking the time to check out the book, and for commenting here! Means a lot to me. If you have time to review the book, would be so grateful :)
aww. thank you for this! If you have time to leave a review for the book wherever you bought it, it would help a lot in terms of getting the word out! no pressure though and thank you for considering.
One of my friends from New York gifted me a copy of your book. Grateful to find professionals such as yourself give a voice to why self care needs to be examined under the microscope of social justice and privilege. What might be accessible, affordable, sustainable, and possible for women of privilege is completely unthinkable for many of the women I interact with (via my own service work). Even in my own personal life, the quality of my self care has been directly proportionate to my financial circumstances and the amount of community (and family) support I have at any point in time. This publication is finally something I feel comfortable recommending to a wide range of women. Enjoyed listening to your interview with Zibby as well. Blessings ~ SWN
Just got your book in the mail!! Thx for sharing this excerpt--resonated with me as a recovering over-achiever pediatrician who had to triple feed her biggest kid and tries to remind every single triple feeding parent that it is ok to do it differently.
really appreciate you engaging here! If you have time to review the book wherever you bought it, would be so grateful for the support. and, thank you again for taking the time to read and to comment here. the doctor overachiever mindset is no joke and feeding decisions are just so hard!
Kudos to you for tackling things that have positive associations, but when their levels of importance are inflated, they can cause important things to get overlooked, and can even cause harm.
When my mom and grandmas were having babies, breastfeeding wasn't supported, and even thought of as dirty. Women were shamed for wanting to breastfeed and sometimes told their milk wasn't good enough for no reason.
During the 90s things shifted to "breast is best." There were studies taken out of context making it seem like breast milk was gonna get your kid into an elite college. And even a weird push for women who breastfed to act like ambassadors and help "spread the message." At least that's how it seemed to me then.
Things have settled down in recent years from my experience, but women who don't breastfeed, or stop breastfeeding, still feel needless guilt. And women who want to breastfeed, still don't get enough support, especially if they have fewer social and financial resources.
These are complex issues, but sometimes best explained with real stories of real people. That's where I find the most help. Thanks for sharing this. And LOVE your book!!
And love this quote from above: "you don't even need to do it perfectly--you just need to start "
thank you so much for taking the time to write this very very thoughtful comment. as a perinatal psychiatrist, I spend so much of my time helping women navigate the minefield that is feeding decisions -- and so I was hoping that that example would bring it to life, without alienating. it's nice to know it landed! (and, i've been on the personal side of this as well as I have a 9 month old!) if you have a second to review the book wherever you bought it, I would be hugely grateful! thank you again for engaging here and for your thoughtful comment.
You are so welcome! I just left an Apple Book Store review to encourage others to read your book. That's wonderful hearing about your little one. I always share that Jill Churchill quote with newer parents: "There's no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one." Find what works for you, and when life changes, find a new way that works and it's all good.
I know I'm saying this to an expert, but we're all human. And it's still a challenge even when well informed. And that's why we all need support: needing help is normal. I wish I knew that when I was a new mom, but it’s great to see movement in that direction. Your book helps move the needle! BEST to you!!
Listening to the audiobook at work and had to come research you! From a college student and full-time worker who is studying to be clinical therapist or school counselor, this introduction and book as a whole will change lives, and I hope to grow from it too. Thank you so much for being brave enough in this world to speak up and out!
Thank you so much for taking the time to check out the book, and for commenting here! Means a lot to me. If you have time to review the book, would be so grateful :)
Mine came and I've dug in!
yay, can't wait to hear what you think!
Got my copy on the 15th and have learned so much already! Thank you for your effort in making this wonderful read.
You made my day. Thank you deeply.
Thank you for a book that actually considers everything and made me feel like I could work toward a healthier life!
aww. thank you for this! If you have time to leave a review for the book wherever you bought it, it would help a lot in terms of getting the word out! no pressure though and thank you for considering.
Done!! I bought it from my local bookstore but did the review on Amazon. Hope that’s okay!
One of my friends from New York gifted me a copy of your book. Grateful to find professionals such as yourself give a voice to why self care needs to be examined under the microscope of social justice and privilege. What might be accessible, affordable, sustainable, and possible for women of privilege is completely unthinkable for many of the women I interact with (via my own service work). Even in my own personal life, the quality of my self care has been directly proportionate to my financial circumstances and the amount of community (and family) support I have at any point in time. This publication is finally something I feel comfortable recommending to a wide range of women. Enjoyed listening to your interview with Zibby as well. Blessings ~ SWN